Few years back, Carol shared with me about how we should view marriage, and after going through the past 5 years with Bren, I can convincingly say that she’s right. So, very right.
What she shared that morning is still very vivid in my mind – it was on how married couples should never allow themselves to think or even say the word “divorce”. Of course, this doesn’t necessarily apply to couples in prolonged abusive relationships. That context is a different story altogether, and is not what I’m referring to here. But in general – and after living it out – it makes a lot of sense.
When tough times hit, Bren and I choose to stick it out. We may argue and have our strong opinions and differences, but never once do we allow ourselves the option of getting out.
Issues may arise from petty matters, or very important life-changing decisions, but as long as we never ever mention the “D word”, we are then motivated towards making the best out of every situation, and at the end of the day, can always calmly come to an agreement, or agree to disagree on certain matters without affecting our relationship negatively.
I can safely say that this was one of the best marriage advice given to us, ever.
I believe that love is a choice, and a commitment that is not to be taken lightly. It does not flow according to our whims and fancies, and definitely not according to how we feel.
Marriage is to be honored and dearly respected, and ultimately, it is a sanctifying process for our holiness, not to make our individual selves happy. It is unconditional love and faithfulness to each other that allows a marriage to be strengthened, and in this day and age where divorces are rampant, it is such an important reminder for any of us – to choose to love, no matter what.
Choose to honor what you’ve vowed to do for the rest of your life.
Married life is never perfect, but I’m so incredibly thankful that we get the choice to still choose to love it. 🙂